Five Things To Stay Away From While On a Date.
1. Competition. This is not the place to compare yourself, your previous lover, your failures, with his or hers.
2. Skill. Desiring to project how good you are at being an enjoyable partner is unnecessary work and that will manifest.
3. Chance. Remember you chose to be on this date. In the end, chance is not a factor.
4. Endurance. A date is not a competition to see who will outlast the other in being funny and intelligent.
5. Rules. Stone-set rules become the end to new possibilities.
Five Practices to Engage in When Dating.
1. Play. Although many of these might sound basic, I’d be willing to wager many of you do not approach dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the sand? How perfect was that? Not a care in the world, nothing to prove. Just muddy fun! Find ways to approach your date with having fun as a first priority. Find fun even if the person on the other side of the table is a serious type. Make it a game to look for fun. You do not have to see him or her again if they can’t be easy-going and have fun. Using the Law of Attraction is hugely powerful for Relationships Attraction, and it’s not hard to grasp.
2. Laugh. A cousin of Play, laughing is the easiest infectious way to spread happiness. Prior to going on any date, especially a first date, tell yourself that you’ll consciously look for reasons to feel good and laugh. Smile as much as possible. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Simply smile for no reason.
3. Listen. This is such an important way to build a relationship with your date. Deep listening means when you turn off the voices in your mind and tune in to the things the person on the other side of the table is saying. Of course, your critical voice will probably be desiring to sound off for a variety of reasons. You do not like the manner in which he eats his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Stuff like that can be distracting from the main purpose. Just realize you are being distracted and pull yourself back. To reiterate, you don’t have to see them again if you do not want to. Although, this is an important practice, and it’s a building block for intimacy. You will want to use this quality in your long term relationship, so why not get your practice in now. By the way, you don’t have to listen just in the dating scene. You can create your own Law of Attraction Relationships right now and sky-rocket your level of creative potential!
4. Eye Contact. Do not simply make eye contact and nod your head. Engage in deep listening while making eye contact. This is an excellent communication of your own generosity. And I can assure you, your generosity will return to you. If you need the support of a Law of Attraction Coach, by all means go get it! Using an unbiased listener to check in with can help you move off outdated patterns much faster.
5. Communicate. When it is your time to speak, strive for clarity and being heard. As you have given your attention to your date, desire the same. You have not interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, request the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without causing it to be a problem. Simply nicely ask for what you’d like. Being confident with what you want takes much pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.
It does not matter if you’re 25 or 75 dating – simply enjoy life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, your date will go much more smoothly for everyone.
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