law of attraction, Relationships

Confidence and Creating A Relationship

Posted by on September 24, 2009 at 6:03 pm.

A Life Coach for people with confidence or self-esteem problems is extremely helpful in answering this following question. Women tend to be plagued the most from self-esteem, abandonment and worthiness issues. Life Coach Advice for Women is one way to solve this issue in life coaching. Anita asks: “Are some people just meant to be lonely forever”? Anita, since you responded to our survey about love and the Law of Attraction, I’m going to assume you have been thinking about creating love for yourself. There are many who decide to keep out of serious relationships. And that is not necessarily the situation for someone who has stopped after they’ve continuously been unsuccessful. Not a thing is wrong with preferring to be without an intimate relationship. Life can be fulfilled and wonderful with any decision you make.

As long as you know you are deciding that instead of giving up out of frustration that you haven’t met the love of a lifetime. You can acquire everything in a relationship and in your life.

If you could see yourself from the perspective of Source or your Inner Being, or Higher Self, you would see a beautiful, magnificent, brilliant, connected entity. Then life begins to occur around us. Our oblivious parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to guide us, tell us from the beginning what we need to watch out for, stop us, caution us, and try to shelter us, effectively having us adhere to their fear and insecurities instead of tuning in to our personal energy. OK, I will grant you as brand new creatures we do need support. Fine. But shortly after they learn to function by themselves, self-awareness should be part of the training for the little ones.

Well-intentioned adults desire to do the best thing so they teach, caution, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only creates a level of insecurity and inability. The feeling of not-enoughness gets engraved as a child.

Brain research now explains to us that before we’re 7, we are so open and receptive, we have no filtering ability at all. We walk around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become impressed with whatever comes into our life experience. It is not a wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misplaced, thoughts about an imperfect nature. By the time we’re 6 years old, we have listened to the word “NO” approximately 60,000 times. Look out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not do that. The subliminal message is you are unworthy, you cannot trust you, you don’t know what you are doing, and so on.

Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They simply intended for our well-being. But you can see how simply we have been trained away from our innate greatness and brilliance.

I recommend that you go easy with yourself and let yourself have a break. First off, it is not your fault. It’s not even the fault of your parents. They were taught the same way too. You can stop the prevalence of lower self-esteem on yourself and everyone you know. You deserve to have everything your heart wants.

Do your very best to lavish yourself love and self-acceptance. Adhere to yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The reality is, the Universe adores, Spirit admires you, and your Inner Being adores you. Why? Because you ARE perfect. And that IS the truth!

You can learn more secrets to relationship attraction in my FREE VIDEO from the new DVD, “7 Secrets to Find and Keep the Love of Your Dreams.” Just go to http://www.loveofyourdreams.com

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